Author: Nick Saint Clair
Genre: Self-help, nonfiction (adult)
Publisher: Publish Green
Release Date: May 28th 2014
Source: ARC from NetGalley
Rating: 1 Star
This is a book about sex. This is a book about addiction. And this is a book about sex addiction.
Today in America, it is said that at least 6 percent of the population is addicted to sex. A conservative number given that it is one of the most under-reported and secretive addictions of all. It is also one of the most violent, powerful, and difficult addictions to overcome. The stories you are about to read are graphic by design to illustrate how and why these people got where they are. The author’s hope is that you’re moved, disturbed, provoked, informed, and changed from this knowing. And hopefully you begin to understand the characteristics of sex addiction and become more compassionate. The author believes that only through understanding and compassion can we help those around us change. May this help you if you choose to be of service to those who are suffering from this disease.
I received a complimentary copy in exchange for an honest review.
I rarely read non-fiction, if ever. I requested this book, however the premise sounded interesting. What I thought I was getting, and what I actually got were two completely different things. I made it about 3 stories in before I realized that this book was more about sexual abuse than actual addiction. I am not an idiot. I know enough to know that the two often go hand in hand. Unfortunately, this novel was just a repetition of triggering stories. Each story tells the dark journey of how people ended up where they did. From sexual identity repression to sexual abuse, this book pretty much covered it all.
On NetGalley, it was listed under self-help as well as nonfiction (adult), although I have no idea how this book could be considered self-help. As someone who has been sexually abused multiple different ways by multiple different people, this book actually took me back to a dark place mentally and I found it hard to return to normal afterwards. I had to quit reading because of the anxiety and stress it caused. I don’t know how reading about how a young woman was raped most of her life from her father is supposed to help anyone. It certainly didn’t help me. But that’s how every story is. There are no happy endings, there is no discussion of therapy or what they did to recover. It’s just dark stories of abuse.
I personally feel that this story is meant for people who have never been to such dark places. People who don’t understand what it’s like and look down on those who have been there and it reflects in their life choice. I have been there, though. I know what it’s like. I don’t need to feel compassion or understand these people because I already do. And reading their stories just made me relive my own nightmare.
At least the book synopsis warns you.